Language of Emotions : What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You

Language of Emotions : What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You

Book Title: Language of Emotions : What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You

  • Publication Date: 28 May 2010
  • ISBN-13: 9781591797692
  • Rating : 4.5/5 from 205 voters

Your emotions contain brilliant information. When you learn to welcome them as your allies, they can reveal creative solutions to any situation. For 35 years, empathic counselor and researcher Karla McLaren has developed a set of practical tools for the real-world stresses of family, career, and the quest for personal fulfillment. In The Language of Emotions, she presents her breakthrough teachings for a new and empowering relationship with your feeling states.

Your emotions-especially the dark and dishonored ones-hold a tremendous amount of energy. We've all seen what happens when we repress or blindly express them. However, there is a powerful alternative. In The Language of Emotions, you'll learn to meet your emotions and engage with them to safely move toward resolution and equilibrium. Through experiential exercises covering a full spectrum of feelings from anger, fear, and shame to jealousy, grief, joy, and more, you will discover how to work with your own and others' emotions with fluency and expertise.

When we relate to our emotions with respect and authenticity, we can directly access our innermost wisdom, unfold the deepest parts of ourselves, and heal our most painful wounds. The Language of Emotions gives us a much-needed resource for self-understanding and freedom:

How to overcome addictions, distractions, and unresolved trauma-the three primary impediments to emotional ease
Using the energy of anger to protect and restore personal boundaries

Step-by-step guidance in the five skills of the empath (someone skilled in reading emotions)
How to balance your "quaternity," a metaphor for the interplay of mind, body, spirit, and emotions
Honoring sadness as a source of release and rejuvenation

Joy, the natural response to beauty and communion


"In my graduate education in counseling psychology, I found very little information about our emotions. Yet in my work as a therapist and educator, I've seen that emotions are key to healing. Karla McLaren's book offers an outstanding guide to the signals and messages emotions send us, along with clear instructions for intelligent and emotion-supporting actions we can take in response. Karla has made a huge contribution to the well-being of us all; The Language of Emotions will become required reading in all of my courses."-Nancy -Feehan, MFT, adjunct professor of counseling psychology at the University of San Francisco

"Karla McLaren's unique, empathic view of emotions surprisingly revalues even the most `negative' emotions and opens pathways to understanding the depths of the human soul."
-Michael Meade, author of The World Behind the World and The Water of Life

"This book changed the way I relate to others, and to myself, forever."
-Gavin De Becker, author of The Gift of Fear

Table of Contents

Part I: Restoring Your Native Language

Introduction- Creating a Conscious Life

My Empathic Journey- The Difficult Beginnings of Empathy

Troubled Waters - How We Got So Confused

It Takes a Village - Surrounding Your Emotions With Support

Reviving Your Essential Nature - Making Room for Your Central Self

Avoidance, Addiction, and Awakening-Understanding the Need for Distractions

Unintentional Shamans-The Role of Trauma in Soul-Making and Culture-Binding

The Role of Emotions in the Resolution of Trauma-Water Will Carry You Home

The Steadfast Promise - Why Love is Not an Emotion

Building Your Raft-The Five Empathic Skills

PART II : Embracing Your Emotions

Wading Into the Water - Awakening All of Your Emotions
Anger: Protection and Restoration-Includes Rage, Fury, and the Healing of Trauma

Apathy and Boredom-The Mask for Anger

Guilt and Shame-Restoring Integrity

Hatred-The Profound Mirror-Includes Resentment, Contempt, Disgust, and Shadow Work

Fear: Intuition and Action - Includes Anxiety, Worry, and the Healing of Trauma

Confusion: The Mask for Fear

Jealousy and Envy: Relational Radar-Includes Greed

Panic and Terror: Frozen Fire - Includes Healing from Trauma

Sadness: Release and Rejuvenation: Includes Despair and Despondency

Grief: The Deep River of the Soul

Depression: Ingenious Stagnation-Focusing on Situational Depression

Suicidal Urges: The Darkness Before Dawn

Happiness: Amusement and Anticipation

Contentment: Appreciation and Recognition

Joy: Affinity and Communion-Includes Exhilaration and Honoring Happiness in Others

Stress and Resistance: Understanding Emotional Physics

Emotions Are Your Native Language-The Fine Art of a Life Well Lived